5 signs you're raising a spoiled child

If you're concerned you might be raising a spoiled child, here is Borba's checklist of the most common 'red flags' to look out for.

1. Not taking no for an answer: Your kid expects to get things their way and usually does. In fact, they’re the ones constantly telling you “no".
2. Being more into receiving than giving: No matter what you do, it's not enough and spoiled kids just want more.
3. Demanding things ASAP: They don’t consider that other people may be inconvenienced by their requests, and expect you to set your priorities aside and cater to them.
4. Only thinking about themselves: They feel entitled and expect special favors.
5. Never satisfied with what they have: They’re used to having all the toys in the world, but it’s never enough. They always want more, more, more.

Can you unspoil kids?

You'll be relieved to know that the answer is yes since spoiled attitudes are learned behaviours.

Here are Borba's top three tips when it comes to 'unspoiling' children.

1. 1. Say “no” without guilt: Parents often believe that saying “no” decreases self-esteem, but research shows that kids who are raised with structure and less-permissive parenting have higher self-worth and feel more empathy towards others. When you say “no", give a short reason to help them understand why.
2. 2. Boost gratitude: Practicing gratitude helps children feel happier, cope better with adversity, and increases their life satisfaction.
3. 3. Stretch waiting: Research shows that being able to pause, wait and delay is highly correlated with future academic and financial success. Patience is a virtue after all.