8 reasons why toddlers have a meltdown - and how to cope

Toddler tantrums are some of the toughest challenges of parenting, so here are 8 reasons why toddlers have a meltdown - and how to cope.

The bad news is that these meltdowns are completely normal and something you just have to deal with.

But the good news is there are techniques to help you manage them, and we're here to help.

8 reasons why toddlers have a meltdown - and how to cope

1. They are hungry a lot: Toddlers burn off food at different speeds, depending on how active they are and if they're going through a growth spurt. If you don't provide food on demand, there will be a meltdown! Our suggestion is to ALWAYS have a snack supply to hand, but to also provide snacks that are high in protein so that your toddler will feel fuller for longer.
2. They're tired: Toddlers need between 12 and 14 hours of sleep a day, and most get far less than that. And every parent knows the sheer terror of an over-tired child! You need to ensure you have a regular nap schedule from early on, and that you stick to it.
3. They can't self-regulate: Your toddler can't reason, they don't understand what makes sense and what doesn't, and they can't react rationally. So it's important that you pick your battles. We're not saying you just turn a blind eye and let them away with everything. But sometimes it's just easier to say yes.
4. Toddlers need routine: Imagine how overwhelming it is navigating a whole new world. That's why toddlers thrive on routine, because they know what to expect. They may be young, but it's important that you explain to toddlers if you're changing up the routine and what they can expect instead.
5. They don't have words to express themselves: Even if your toddler has a lot of words in their vocabulary, they still can't express themselves properly. And that is extremely frustrating. You could suggest other ways of self-expression, or just diffuse the situation by walking away and coming back to it at a later date.
6. They have to perspective: Please don't think your toddler is being defiant and unruly. They're not. They just have no empathy and that means they can be extremely demanding with no room for reason.
7. They need some control: Think about it; toddlers are constantly being told where to go, what to do, when to do it. And it's only natural that this sparks rebellion. The best way to deal with this is to let the child think they're the one making the decision.
8. They want your attention: Another common reason many toddlers throw tantrums is simply that they want your attention. They might want you to pick them up or spend a little time cuddling them.

Distraction is key

Tantrums can be extremely distressing for both you and your toddler, but it's important to remember they are another unavoidable stage of their development.

Distraction is one of the most powerful tools you have and can calm many situations.

Maybe sing a song, bring out their favourite toy or book, or go outside for a walk.