Much to the ire of cesarean section moms everywhere, there exists a school of thought that c-sections are the easy way out.
Well, we're here to set the record straight.
Having a surgeon cut through 7 layers of muscle to extract your baby from your womb while y0u're (usually) fully conscious is NOT the easy way out.
Not all c-sections are elective and, even if they are, they certainly aren't a walk in the park.
It doesn't matter how your baby arrived earthside; what matters is that you and baby are healthy and well.
6 things you should know about a c-section mom
- They might have mixed feelings about their birth experience: Because of the above mentioned narrative that c-sections are the easy way out, many c-section moms feel like they failed or that they didn't really give birth. So it's important that you're aware of this fragility. Be supportive.
- There will be weeks of vaginal bleeding: Typically less bleeding than from a vaginal birth, but still uncomfortable and often restrictive.
- They will experience pain with sex: This is mainly due to hormones and maybe pelvic floor issues. But remember, some c-section moms also pushed before the cesarean route.
- They may be healing in two places: If they did push for a time, they will have swelling and tenderness down below, as well as the healing from major abdominal surgery.
- They might have been unconscious for the birth: This can be devastating for moms, so don't just assume they were awake for the surgery.
- They will appreciate extra support: Physically and mentally, healing from a c-section is tough. Remember, c-section moms can't drive for six weeks, can't lift heavy objects, can't bend in certain ways, will have dressings over their scar which need care, and may generally be struggling a little. So offers to help cook, clean, mind baby for a bit, or even just a hug and a listening ear will go a long way.